Some people are natural flirts, but what if you're not one of those people? Fret not, we're here to help! Learn about the secrets of flirting and master these fool-proof tactics of seduction, right here:
Whether or not you firmly believe that men should make the first move, flirting is the gateway to finding romance. Why? By flirting, you are signalling the prospective partner that you're interested and attracted to him, in a teasing and engaging way. In other words, flirting is a subtle invitation for men to make a move.
This means that if you're shy and close off social interactions with the opposite sex, you're actually limiting your access to the pool of bachelors out there.
"Flirting is a negotiation process that takes place after there has been some initial attraction," says Steven W. Gangestad, Ph.D., an evolutionary psychologist at the University of New Mexico in Albuquerque who is currently studying how people choose their mates. How do you ace it? Just check out the following tips:
Flirting tips 101
1. Work on your self-confidence
Flirting is an art requiring confidence. If you're not exactly comfortable in your own skin, start working on your self-confidence:
Who's going to believe you're sexy if you don't believe it yourself?
2. Keep smiling
A smile lights up your face and draws people to you. Let the smile come forth naturally -- it will make you much more approachable.
3. Catch his eye
Catch his eye and smile with your brows slightly raised (a subtle sign of interest). Walk up to him until about an arm's length distance away, then start a conversation. Don't just talk away, make sure he's looking at you and is aware of your presence.
4. Give sincere compliments
Compliment him on his clothes, or sense of humor. Saying "Hey, you've got a great jacket, where did you buy it?" makes him think that you are noticing things about him, and your attention is flattering.
5. Keep your body language open
Look at him when talking but don't stare -- let your gaze dance from his eyes to his mouth and back occasionally, which signals attraction. When you're telling an anecdote, lightly touch his arm when you're about to reveal the climax of the story, as if you're making a point. Like "And you know what happened after that?" Touch the arm. "He actually flew to London to meet her!"
6. Listen with interest
When he's talking, listen with interest. Sound like you're paying attention by adding "Hmmm..." or "Yeah..." at appropriate intervals and tilt your head to the side slightly which shows your interest and a desire to understand.
7. Be positive and engaging
Keep your conversation light-hearted and humorous. Don't gossip negative stuff about a mutual friend. You don't want him to think you're a big blabbermouth.
8. Make your move
When the conversation is coming to an end, and you decide you'll like to stay in touch, don't be afraid to leave your number with him. In fact, guys will be more responsive because they will think you are one hot chick who's available!